Underlying many childhood problems is a feeling of low self-esteem. Children's behaviour is usually determined by how they feel about themselves.
Feeling worthless, lacking in self-respect or a lack of self-confidence influences their attitudes and behaviours.
Children who are overprotected do not learn to cope with ordinary, everyday situations. They are often too timid to make their own decisions for fear of making mistakes. They do not trust their own judgement. These children tend to feel very vulnerable, sensitive and incapable of fending for themselves.
Solution of Low Confidence
Allow the child to make decisions and mistakes. Start with small choices and work your way up.
- Children who are neglected and left to their own devices are getting a very clear message "I AM NOT WORTH BOTHERING ABOUT".
- Some adults communicate an aura of total power and rule. Positive interaction and mutual respect are lacking. Punishment/yelling are used excessively. This type of behaviour causes children to perceive themselves as not worthy of high regard.
- Avoid labelling. The child who hears that he is "too slow", "dumb", "bad" etc; often enough, starts to believe it must be true , leading, very often, to acting out the "bad" label.
- High self-esteem is directly promoted when children feel accepted. They need to have the freedom to make choices and mistakes without fear of rejection or criticism.